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| Theoryofrelativity |
 Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 7:53 am Post subject: How stressed are you? |
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Many of you know me as a compulsive blogger, Internet Writer and Relationship Columnist, but a little know fact is that I am also a Qualified Stress Consultant (MASC) and Character Analyst (AMANF). I qualified years ago in 1995 when these things weren't quite so popular as they are now in terms of providing services to others. I studied the stress course in order to help me to manage my own stress, which at the time was affecting my health quite badly. I had irritable bowel syndrome, sinusitis, back ache and a whole host of other random symptoms, visual disturbances, headaches etc. As you can see a long list!
You might be suffering from similar 'mystery' ailments that seem to just keep coming but have you made the connection yet that it might be stress that is causing these problems?
Stress is a word we hear bandied about fairly often in this modern world, but one I am sure the older generation still frown at. In their day they just got on with things, or so they tell me. They had no need for counselors or therapists or stress management! In part they are correct, but times have changed.
Whereas years ago people lived in much closer knit communities and had large support networks of family and friends to share the burdeon, now families are spread further apart as people travel to new jobs and better opportunities. Life is lived at a faster pace as people want more for less on an ongoing basis. Equality has also had a significant impact.
Women and men are equally affected by the changes in equality. Women are now expected to have a career and be mum, a wife and caretaker. Men are expected to work, support mums with housework and children, adopting a traditionally female role around the home. These changes may appear to be for the better but the roles have not reversed, rather they have just equalised meaning that both sexes are now performing both duties, doubling their overall workload and thus their stress!
Life is thus more stressful and there are less people to share that stress with and so disperse it.
Stress can also be caused by anxiety over work or exams, anxiety about finances, relationships, moving house, divorce even happy occassions like planning a wedding or birthday party can cause stress.
I know myself as a busy divorced mum, with no family nearby that by not having someone in the evening to unload my days trials and tribulations to, that this can in itself be a source of stress.
From a work point of view, I worked in the NHS which is traditionally one of the most stressful organisations to work for due to the constant demand for services, lack of resources and pressures to provide for a growing population. I can't argue with the results either! As a Health Center Manager I had colleagues unloading their stress on me daily and in return would unload on my faithful secretary.
So what causes us stress and what the heck can we do about it!
There is something we can do. But as with all things, it's different horses for different courses, and not every stress management strategy will suit everyone.
Over the next few weeks, I will put together some strategies that will cater for different personalities and types of stressors. You can find them over at my website www.stress-relief-4u.blogspot.com which I will update shortly.
Meanwhile
How stressed are you?
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| marnixR |
| Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 9:28 am Post subject: |
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not very - i have very good stress avoidance strategies
the good old boy scout motto of "be prepared" etc.
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| 425 Chaotic Requisition |
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Here here. We seem to share yet another boat Marnix. 
PS, To find out how stressed you are in a psychological scientific way, try looking up 'The Social reajustment rating scale' by Rahe et.al. Thats always a good way of seeing how stressed you are.
Here is a link:
Social Readjustment Rating Scale.
Oh I wish I listened to more back at school and college. 
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| Theoryofrelativity |
| Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 12:38 pm Post subject: |
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| 425 Chaotic Requisition wrote: |
Here here. We seem to share yet another boat Marnix.
PS, To find out how stressed you are in a psychological scientific way, try looking up 'The Social reajustment rating scale' by Rahe et.al. Thats always a good way of seeing how stressed you are.
Here is a link:
Social Readjustment Rating Scale.
Oh I wish I listened to more back at school and college. |
Excellent if it's any good I shall add it to my new blog
http://www.stress-relief-4u.blogspot.com
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| 425 Chaotic Requisition |
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Hope it has helped. See, there had to be a reason I remembered that more than anything else in A-Level Psychology.
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| Theoryofrelativity |
| Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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| 425 Chaotic Requisition wrote: |
| Hope it has helped. See, there had to be a reason I remembered that more than anything else in A-Level Psychology. |
I think it is a useful aid, I have added it to the blog.
I think those self esteem tests are quite good too. I am going to see if I can find one of those.
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| Cparkinson |
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hello everyone,
I do not think that I am very stressed now that I landed my full time job. It was such a relief after looking for a year, going to school the year before that. So if stress is cumulative as far as effects on my body----I do have some issues for sure! Many years of a poor wage and struggling to support myself, aches and pains do take their toll. I am very grateful that they are minor in the scheme of things, not life threatening or anything.
I would like to learn to manage stress better, how I think about it----feel and how I attempt to release it. I know that I try to forgive and let go of the past, this seems to help considerably. I also try to eat well and get enough rest/does not always work. Any other tips you can offer me? Thanks, Chris.
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| 425 Chaotic Requisition |
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Hello CParlingson, welcome to the forum. I don't really have any tips really, only other than turning the other cheek. But that requires you to be brave, it is very hard to walk away yet knowing they are still going to be there to hurt you.
I find though the best stress relief is laughter, laugh when you can as much as you can. Live by my saying "Laugh at life or it will laugh at you".
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| BumFluff |
| Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Cparkinson wrote: |
hello everyone,
I do not think that I am very stressed now that I landed my full time job. It was such a relief after looking for a year, going to school the year before that. So if stress is cumulative as far as effects on my body----I do have some issues for sure! Many years of a poor wage and struggling to support myself, aches and pains do take their toll. I am very grateful that they are minor in the scheme of things, not life threatening or anything.
I would like to learn to manage stress better, how I think about it----feel and how I attempt to release it. I know that I try to forgive and let go of the past, this seems to help considerably. I also try to eat well and get enough rest/does not always work. Any other tips you can offer me? Thanks, Chris.
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music is also a great stress reliever. The Wii.video games has good effects on my stress as well (As long as I'm not addicted to the games)
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| Theoryofrelativity |
| Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 12:47 am Post subject: |
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| BumFluff wrote: |
| music is also a great stress reliever. The Wii.video games has good effects on my stress as well (As long as I'm not addicted to the games) |
Studies have shown prolonged gaming/computer use to increase 'lack of concentration and irritability' in classroom children.
I do though use the computer myself for stress relief. I block out the noise and the harassment of my kids with a quick Google or stint on here, then return 'back to reality'.
Any break from the situation is bound to be helpful.
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| sunshinewarrior |
| Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:51 am Post subject: |
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| 425 Chaotic Requisition wrote: |
Here here. We seem to share yet another boat Marnix.
PS, To find out how stressed you are in a psychological scientific way, try looking up 'The Social reajustment rating scale' by Rahe et.al. Thats always a good way of seeing how stressed you are.
Here is a link:
Social Readjustment Rating Scale.
Oh I wish I listened to more back at school and college. |
Ta for the link - I too remember this from Reader's Digest or some such.
As it happens, I appear to have scored 68 on it, and even then there was a dodgy 44 points in there.
I suspect I am deeply unstressed...
Or as a former colleague and boss once said of me: "He's so laid-back he's horizontal." They liked that in me... |
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| Theoryofrelativity |
| Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 3:11 am Post subject: |
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| sunshinewarrior wrote: |
I suspect I am deeply unstressed...
Or as a former colleague and boss once said of me: "He's so laid-back he's horizontal." They liked that in me... |
I used to date someone like this.
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| Pong |
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| Theoryofrelativity wrote: |
| Studies have shown prolonged gaming/computer use to increase 'lack of concentration and irritability' in classroom children. |
That or 'lack of concentration and irritability' increases gaming/computer use. There's often a cause/effect coin-flip to these conclusions.  And often the cause of both is something else entirely.
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| I do though use the computer myself for stress relief. I block out the noise and the harassment of my kids with a quick Google or stint on here, then return 'back to reality'. |
Your kid-caused "lack of concentration and irritability" increases your computer use. You said it yourself.
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I'm under-stressed. How cna one get over the aloof & secure feeling life is just a game? I don't believe it is, yet my nature feels this way. I would like to grasp more. |
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| sunshinewarrior |
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| Theoryofrelativity wrote: |
| sunshinewarrior wrote: |
I suspect I am deeply unstressed...
Or as a former colleague and boss once said of me: "He's so laid-back he's horizontal." They liked that in me... |
I used to date someone like this. |
They call 'em sleeping partners....  |
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| Theoryofrelativity |
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| sunshinewarrior wrote: |
| Theoryofrelativity wrote: |
| sunshinewarrior wrote: |
I suspect I am deeply unstressed...
Or as a former colleague and boss once said of me: "He's so laid-back he's horizontal." They liked that in me... |
I used to date someone like this. |
They call 'em sleeping partners.... |
yeh yeh 
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